Future of Marriage

10-29-15 15:02

It will take time, struggle and maybe even new sexual revolution in America to change the traditional concept of marriage and accept simultanious love, but it will happen as people are clearly moving to that direction despite hypocritical social canons.

Twenty First Century has brought us cell phones, computers, internet and emerging everyday new technologies. People around the world have accepted and embraced these changes, without which it is impossible to imagine our life today. World has changed drastically, and if we want to admit it or not, so is society. Historically, marriage (a union of one man and one woman), was created by society to protect a social structure from necessary financial obligations by putting these duties to people inside a marriage. In today world, household of two mothers, two fathers or grandparents raising a child has become a new type of family structure. Not long time ago, could we even imagine a possibility of open homosexuality being accepted by civilized world or same sex marriages being legalized? On the other hand, failing of traditional marriage institution became a reality with 60 percent divorce rate being a proof. Statistic shows that high percentages of married couples, who elect to stay together, make this decision not out of desire to be together and enjoy each other company but rather based on mutual financial and social obligations. Does society artificially tries to keep an illusion that technology has changed but society and morality has not? Infidelity rate growing drastically is an answer with a new question arising: does concept of monogamy work for human nature vs. social convention? In 1889 famous Russian writer Leo Tolstoy who is considered an expert in understanding human feelings and relationships between people in general and man and woman in specific, in his novella The Kreutzer Sonata said: To say that you can love one person all your life is just like saying that one candle will continue burning as long as you live. This statement about connection between love, sexuality, abstinence and marriage was published more than a century ago. What would be an answer to this question today when life expectancy jumped so much? Is it realistic to make a promise: I will love you until death do us part? Are we ready to embrace open marriages or accept a concept of Polyamory? Word Polyamory consists of two parts: poly from Greek and amore from Latin and translates as the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at the same time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This concept embraces a fact that you can be in love with more than one person at the same time. Are we as a civilized society ready to accept it? Probably not. It will take time, struggle and maybe even new sexual revolution in America to change the traditional concept of marriage and accept simultanious love, but it will happen as people are clearly moving to that direction despite hypocritical social canons. Living an extra-marital lifestyle could be a new concept of love relationship in a future. In today world of internet discreet married dating sites promoting extra-marital affairs are becoming more and more prominent.