Can you help losing interest in intimacy?

10-29-15 14:57

Is it your fault that you lost interest in intimacy? Whether you are a man or a woman losing interest in intimacy is a problem that has to be dealt with.

Whether you are a man or a woman losing interest in intimacy is a problem that has to be dealt with. There are of course some cases where the situation can not be helped, like a bad marriage, depression due to illness or perhaps an illness in itself that is taking a toll on you. However, if it is none of these reasons then perhaps you need to evaluate the reasons you are feeling this lack of interest. Sometimes it could be you, at other times it could be because of the situations you are in. Take for example that harried mother of boisterous children. Between school, homework, cooking, housework and disciplining the children, your day can be pretty much taken care of and at the end of the day all you want to do is lie down and go to sleep. In such cases one of the ways in which to work things out would be to try and distribute the work load you have. Consider a professional service to the cleaning once in a while. Get your husband and children involved in the stores. And make it a point to try and do something that relaxes you during the day. For the overworked man, a phone constantly ringing off the hook can be the reason you just do not have the time to relax and enjoy some intimate time with your partner. Know where to draw the line. Only when you do that do others who work with you know where to stop bothering you. It may take a little bit of getting used to but it will help you in the long run. Many are under the false impression that for men, intimacy is unrelated to emotions and that they can turn it on whenever they like to. However men are just like women, except maybe they are traditionally not more vocal about their thoughts. If you feel your partner has lost interest in being intimate then it would be best to sit them down and have a sincere talk with them. Show them that you are open to understanding where the problem lies and help them sort through their emotions. It can be a rough ride to start with but in the end you will be able to improve your relationship. This kind of an emotional connect is what will bring on the intimacy or help you rekindle the lost romance.