Having a Cake and eating it too. Why it is bad?

05-30-12 17:12

Having a Cake and eating it too. Why it is bad?

Most people today are finding themselves stuck up in situations where they want to have their cakes and eat them as well. This is in relation to love, relationships and marriages. Just like the saying goes, you can not have a cake and eat it too. This is practically impossible but most people are having their cakes and eating them thanks to cheating and affairs. It is common for most people to find that they are in relationships but they eyes wonder off to better or greener pastures. When faced with this kind of situation, instead of dealing with the other partner, clearing things up and then moving to the other, they want to have them all at the same time. This is especially in cases where they do not have any problem with current partners but feel attracted to others and want to try things out. In most cases, it is the excitement of such a relationship that fizzles hence leaving one party looking elsewhere. Starting a new relationship or affair without ending things with current person only means that the new guy will not have all the attention. You will have to divide yourself amongst the two individuals and in the end you could end up losing both as they feel that you are not giving them your all and take it that you are not that much into them. The worst thing that comes with cheating is that you could be enjoying on your part but end up hurting someone else in the process. Women tend to suffer most when found since they get the reputation that they are untrustworthy. Men on the other hand do not get judged too much as it seems that the society is agreeing to the fact that they love cheating and it could be part of their creation. A ruined reputation will make it hard for the cheater to find potential partners as many, especially those who know about the cheating avoid the person in the best that they can. Perhaps the worst thing about having your cake and eating it as well is the fact that you could end up ruining a relationship that had the potential to blossom fully bringing you the joy, happiness and content that everybody looks for in a relationship. It is definitely something that needs to be well thought out.