Making things clear

05-30-12 17:15

There are several reasons why one would choose to have an affair.

You may be in a loveless relationship, or you may have just outgrown the one you are in right now. No matter what it is having an affair while in a marriage is not really a smart thing to do. It will only add to fuel to a relationship that is going south. Having an affair when you are married can happen for a lot of reasons. If you are in an abusive one, you may tend to lean on someone who offers you the solace you need. This can turn into a relationship which you would not want to let go off. Such relationships continue to run parallel to a bad marriage because the people involved do not want to get into the mess of a divorce, especially if there are children involved. Having an outlet makes things easier emotionally. But continuing this way you only add to the emotional turmoil you are feeling. If you are sure your extramarital affair is the one for you, then coming out clean and getting out of your marriage would be a good idea. It can hurt a lot to start with, but at least you will be able to give your best to your relationship. There are however cases where people, though happily married have an affair. This can be a culmination of numerous reasons. Often office romances take place thanks to proximity and a common sharing of losses and successes. Most of such cases turn out to be infatuations that are a result of being in close quarters with each other the whole day. You have to consider that if your affair sours, then it can make office a hellhole to be in. There have been cases where ex-lovers do everything in their power to sabotage your office life and this is not a good thing, especially if the office has a no-affairs policy. It will take its toll on you your career as well as your personal life. In such cases where a marriage was not headed for a divorce, it can go that way. Having extramarital affairs are sometimes done for the excitement that they involve. If you have been able to have your fun, but would rather opt for your marriage than hurt it, it would be best to get out of the relationship fast and work on improving the dynamics of your marriage.